The Principles of Emotional Intelligence: 7 Habits of The Emotionally Wealthy

Happiness is a habit.

Emotional stability comes through mindful awareness and practice.  Which, quite frankly, is great news.

It means there is a systematic way to guarantee that you will be happy.  The article below has a few of the best principles, practices and distinctions for achieving just that.  Read more of this post

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Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life – Today!

Have you ever heard someone say, “This economy isn’t helping matters…” or “If only I had more money…” or even “My relationship would be better if…” ? If you, or anyone else you know has every said something similar to these phrases, maybe you have noticed something that is constant amongst all three. Do you know what it is? Don’t worry, I will tell you. The constant between all three of these statements is: Blaming something, or someone else for how our lives turn out.

You see, in general terms people are lazy. They’d rather sit all day long on the beach, being served the finest wines, with $2million in the bank. Now, lazy isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Unless, you are being lazy as a way to avoid something you know you should do. So therefore, is nothing wrong with this beach-side image. Most that have attained such success know that living that way for to long yields the same stagnant lifestyle as when without that luxury. Therefore, change and variety is good. Good for the soul, body, and mind. But what yields a successful person over a unsuccessful person? The key is in how a successful person takes responsibility for, not only their life, but their actions. This means, you’ll be able to be lazy but just in a responsible way.

There an ole’ quote about responsibility that goes like this: “You have not gone from childhood to grown up until you have taken 100% responsibility for your life.”

As children we are instructed to take control of what we do and learn to operate within the world. We are told that thing aren’t easy and we aren’t going to be able to control every situation that comes upon us. We are also told that some things “just happen” and we’re going to have to learn to deal with them. Although most of this information is good, it’s not all correct. Maybe we can’t control every situation, but we can take full 100% responsibility for every situation. And here is how:

Taking 100% responsibility is done via THREE KEY components:

1. Action Awareness: You MUCH, and I repeat, MUST become aware of the actions you are taking – every moment possible. When you do something you aren’t please with, ask yourself if this action contributed to your future success or the benefit of others. If it didn’t fit this criteria, then it needs to be changed for the equivalent beneficial action. Change: This is a skill that will strengthen with time. Embracing change for the better is a skill that will not only serve you in your personal life, but your entire life. Embrace not only change that happens to you but also the change that is needed to effectively change your life.

2. Environment Crafting: Set up your environment, whether it’s: business, home, etc. So that it’s conducive to a space that will yield you successful outcomes. Even your car! Take charge and responsibility for the environments you inhabit. This will show responsibility and people will take notice. The key to this is that you make sure you have everything in place that you think you might need in order to succeed in the next 5-10 years. Meaning, if you had to use this space only for the next 5-10 years, with continued growth in mind, how would it look? Who would you like to be in the environment with you? What types of systems would be set up to ensure congruency? What would your ultimate environment look like, feel like, smell like, be like? Once you have made this a reality in your mind, make it a reality in the physical form.

3. Unexpected Situations: This is the one that everyone gets caught up on. They say, “Well, I might be able to control my actions, thoughts, and environments, but I can’t control what happens to me!” In fact, this is the very concept that, usually, propels people back into the state of blaming. They say, “Well, that person hit my car so now I’m going to have a bad day.” or “That deal didn’t go through so now my boss is going to hate me.” or even better “It’s raining outside so that means its a gloomy day.” Yes, if it’s raining outside it will have a gloomy “feel” to it. With this component, it’s not so much about what happens to us as much as it is how we handle the situation. For instance, I noticed that during really rainy days I would get less accomplished versus when it was nice outside. I was completely puzzled. Nothing changed except the weather – or was it just the weather? You see, we tend to base our internal state on the external world. Therefore, every time it rained my internal state would change – thus rendering me less effective. This is something we can control, and I did by meditationally imagining a bright and sunny day and all the things I would do when it was sunny out. When situations arise that are out of our control, our responsibilities lie in three categories: 1. State of mind during the uncontrollable situation. 2. Our thought process during the situation. 3. Our plan of reaction to the situation. 

 

Take responsibility of your life today. Make it so everyone can say, “He/She is very organized and knows exactly what they want. They seem to have their faculties in order.” And, you do. You have the wherewithal to be present in every moment, making your life the way you want it to be.

How to Become Psychologically Aligned

 

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What does it mean to be “aligned”? According to Webster’s Dictionary “aligned” is defined in the following way:

Verb
  1. Place or arrange (things) in a straight line.
  2. Put (things) into correct relative positions.

When we are talking about spiritual alignment we usually associated this with a sense of clarity or energy alignment. But what does it mean to be psychologically aligned? The deeper question; what are we aligned with?

Every day we go through the motions of our daily routines. Whether those routines are supportive of or goals or not play into how stressful our days are. For instance, most individuals much rather not work for someone else, and pursue ideals of their own. Therefore, work becomes a source of stress. When we are stress, our psychology becomes unaligned. This means that our deeply submerged subconscious is failing to line up with our thinking mind. We see this occur when our habits torment us, sending us into a tailspin of unwarranted actions. Our subconscious can have the oposite effect as well. Our thinking mind may want to do something good and wholesome, wherein our subconscious habits kick in to kill those actions. The way to psychologically aligning oneself is a traitorous, where many veer to steer clear of. In order to become psychologically aligned we need to follow the proceeding three steps:

  1. Awareness: We need to become intensely aware of our actions. For our actions are a direct result of our subconscious thinking. Through this awareness we will be able to tangibly monitor our internal operations. By watching what we do, honestly, we gain a new perspective on our current way of operating. We will be able to ask the fundamental question, “Do I want to live this way?”
  2. Strategy: Often we talk about the benefits solid beneficial strategy has on our standard of living. In this context strategy is a vital component to our alignment. Our goal should be to seek out a plan/map that enables us to establish better, more beneficial ways of doing things. Seek out the best, be stingy – this is your life we are talking about here.
  3. Repetition & Integration: This is the key to all subconscious change – inevitably life change. Repeating the new beneficial strategy over and over and over again. Don’t think as though this is “something new to try”. When you find a strategy that is beneficial to you in changing your life that resonates with what you want(thinking consciousness), this repetition will integrate into your daily actions(subconscious).   

Remember this one key component: Once you have made a solid change – meaning you don’t think of the change anymore – it has become integrated into your life – look for further improvement, but not same strategies. Write down this: “What got me here won’t get me there.” This will serve as a reminder to you when you have reached a point you are satisfied with. If you stop at that satisfactory point, you will “plateau”, become stagnant ceasing to grow. Growth is at the core of all human expression. Therefore, don’t be scared to take the risks necessary to go the extra mile. Become aware, plan a change, and repeat until you are unconscious, again, but this time to your benefit.

Heal Your Body Today: Mind Power

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” -M.Gandhi

Do you have a headache? Have you or someone you know ever been told that you have an illness? Science is now confirming the validity of the mind’s place in the healing process. Each year numerous more studies arise activating conclusions surrounding the use of the mind’s intrinsic power to heal and reorganize cells.

In most cases, this mind has been tested through using a placebos effective study. In a very interesting study from the University of Keele in the UK, scientists monitored 835 women to test the effectiveness of aspirin – the findings showed that having a brand name on the tablet made a great difference in how effective the aspirin was.

“The study used two types of aspirin tablets – one labelled with a well-known brand name and the other as ‘analgesic’. There were also two types of placebo tablets, labelled in the same way – either a well known brand name or as ‘analgesic.’ The women were separated into four groups so that they would receive only one type of the tablet. The results showed, amazingly, that the branded aspirin tablets worked better than the unbranded ones, yet it was the same drug! The branded placebos also reduced pain much more than unbranded ones, yet they were the same placebos.”

 Main stream medicine professionals will prescribe to medicines with side effects that rival the actual illness trying to be counteracted. This begs the question: Are there other options? Now, there is evidence to support a “YES” answer with the use of the mind. *Note: The mind is a powerful tool, but there also many other alternatives to medicines like, herbs, organic food, and alkaline rich water.

At this juncture, science is unable to ignore the power of the mind. This is due to the ever increasing acceptance of alternative healing methods amongst the science community. This has come about due to science recognition of the measurement alternative medicine and healing techniques. 

This is how it works…

Your brain cannot distinguish between a real event and a perceived event. In other words, your body responds to your mental stimuli the same way as physical stimuli. What this asserts that when you visualize something in your mind, you mind believes the image is just as real as the images in your external world. This give you immense ability to influence your physiology based on what you are thinking. If you can access these images, ensuring that they are positive and self reinforcing, not only a psychological benefit but philological.  By making your visualizations as realistic as possible with clear positive focus, you will achieve positive results. You are recreating yourself in your new experience of positive wellness by using you most important asset as being human – your mind. Create a new healthy reality today. Remember that the energy of your intentions is actually being processed as new information in body. This is the massive power of your mind.

 

MSN admitted recently: Studies by Janice Kiecolt-Glaser and Ronald Glaser at Ohio State University demonstrate how even minor psychological stress—that of newlyweds having their first fight or of students facing an exam—can compromise the immune system. The researchers found that a marital spat delays wound-healing and that the stress of caring for an Alzheimer’s patient leaves the caregiver more vulnerable to illness even years later.

Healing your body with you mind has become more than just new-age voodoo. Doctors and Universities are noticing the power of our mind’s ability to heal our body. We have discovered in past articles that our mind influence our body and our actions, this is why the control and change of bad habits is essential. Through bad habits we can ignite the compounding effect in where our physiological state can consist of a dismal state. We are now to the scientific location to understand that the mind control more than our actions, but wellness as well. Therefore, we need to take charge of our life, and ensure positive thoughts and visualizations that stimulate health and internal abundance.

Dr. Lissa Rankin: Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself, TalksGoogle

A Life Stress Free – With Pets

Watch Your Stress Melt Away!

As pet owners, we are very lucky to have a pet by our side that waits on our every word. Pets, possibly unknowingly, are some of the most important beings in our lives. They comfort, protect, and keep us calm during stressful times. We come in, after a long day, falling apart from the day’s events. Who is there waiting to give us undivided attention? Our dear animal friend. All they want is animalsattention, in return for complete and total loyalty.

Our pets play a vital role in our level of stress management. Let’s face it, our world is filled with stress. Stress comes in many forms both large and small. Because it’s everywhere, it may seem hard to manage all of it. But spending time with our animal friends have been proven to aid in this department.  Here are some ways our pets helps us deal with stress:

  1. Comfort: Something warm, fuzzy, and personal to snuggle with.
  2. Someone to Talk Too: Pets will never say you’re wrong or that your opinion doesn’t matter. You can vent.
  3. Confide In: Pet’s wont tell anyone your wishes or secrets. This is like having your own personal confession Priest.
  4. Attention: Your animal friend will give you 100% attention if you ask of it.
  5. Love: Love is apparent when you see how your pet looks at you when you say their name up close.
  6. Loyalty: You pet will go anywhere you go, do anything you do, and would follow you to the moon if you asked it.

Scientifically speaking, it has been shown that spending time with animals can reduce stress greatly. Dr. Edward Creagan, M.D. writes in the MayoClinic’s online blog as to the validity of hormones that are released when humans interact with pets. We sites the following story with a patient:

 

Several months ago, I was asked to see a woman in her early 30s who had suffered a devastating accident that resulted in paralysis from the waist down and a life-threatening infection from a broken bone in the thigh. She underwent multiple surgeries and was started on a complicated medication schedule. Before she left the hospital she was instructed in the importance of keeping the wound clean and how to change the dressing, and reminded to strictly follow her medication schedule. The patient was bright and clearly understood the importance of these recommendations.

Over a number of months, however, the patient returned to the hospital frustrated and in a desperate situation from dehydration and pain. Once again, she was given careful instructions, which she said she understood.

When I later visited with the patient in the outpatient setting, I saw a miraculous transformation. Hope had replaced despair, and joy had replaced anger.  I asked her what had happened. She said, “I owe it all to Toto.”

Toto was a dog that my patient had rescued from the local pound. This dog, in turn, helped save its owner by giving her a reason to get out of the bed every morning. Toto needed to be fed and walked. Toto had to see the vet, and so on.

Toto brought something more as well. As scientists have discovered, animals have healing powers. When you stroke a cat or pet a dog, you experience a surge of healing hormones and chemicals that produce feelings of peace and serenity.

 

We all love spending time with animals but who knew it was so beneficial to our stress level management? Pets are more than pets. Pets are little beings that enter our lives to take things from us — our worldly distractions. They remind us of the joy of just being alive. They remind us that it’s the small things that matter — the belly rub, the ball, the savoring of a good meal. Animals are treasures leading us to deeper treasure, when we allow ourselves to be shown.

Book-End Your Days: How to Start Strong and Finish Successful

 

We live in fast time. Times of fast money, fast food, and people looking to move faster. When we rise in the morning we hit the ground running, attempting to beat the person living three feet from us next door. We run to the car, focused on getting to work to

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make the fast sale. After that is complete, we wont the fast money that will buy us the fast car. There is nothing wrong with fast, but as a good friend of mine told me recently, “If you go through life fast, you’ll get to the finish line first.” Amongst all of this fast moving stuff, we seemingly find ourselves caught in a vortex of speed. Never taking the time to become centered and focused, running towards someone else’s dreams. Once we identify our dreams and goals, then only can we achieve what means most to us.

One day, I was presented with the saying, “Work smarter, not harder”. In not knowing what that meant, I searched for answer. I started to read every psychology, philosophy, time management, self development, spiritual book I could get my hands on — and I still do. When I came to the answer for me, I knew exactly how I didn’t want to do things any longer. Don’t misunderstand the message, things get hard sometimes which is a needed part of growth. However, I was doing a lot[before]and not getting a lot accomplished. You see, there are two types of doers in this world:

1. People that get many things done.

2. People that get many things accomplished. 

The distinction between the two might only seem within the changes of vocabulary words, only, until you experience the change for yourself.

People that get many things done are people that make many copies, clean their dest four times in a day, or pace the floor not knowing what to do. These people aren’t productive. They are getting many thing done, but not getting anything accomplished.

The individuals that get things accomplished are proactive, goal driven people that understand what they need to do that day in order to be successful. This would not involve doing anything of the first group of individuals. These individuals understand the power of clear goals for their day and how to get to the finish line.

What is the difference? The difference in how the second group of individuals view their day, month, and year. They book in their days; setting clear goals for the day, with day ending rituals that support their suggest.

How You Refer:

Refer to the beginning and end of your days as. “Starts and Finishes” . What this does is creates a solid “book-end” format for your mind to follow. This way you have a clean set of words that you use every day to describe how you begin and end your day. The use of this verbiage is probably the most important step.

Defining Goals:

Now, to fill in each book in you’ll have to define what your goals are for that day. If you’re not sure, define your goals for the year and then break them down into action that can be set each day. For instance, if you are looking to shed some weight, your goal might be to walk every day for 30 minutes. Under START, put: I Walk 30 Minutes. It’s very important to place your goals in present tense. Under FINISH you might put, I walked for 30 minutes and now need 3 glasses of water. What you are doing here is connecting your starts with your finishes to insure accountability. Always include a gratitude statement that showcases how thankful you are for achieving this greatness.

Crafting:
Once you have defined and crafted the starts and finishes to your day, you will need to places these activities in time slots of your day to insure that they have space to happen. Allow for the maximum time you think they will take. As in the case of walking for 30mins, all you will need is 30mins. But for something like reading 100 pages in a book, you may need more time.

Release:
Now that you have this amazing strategy in place you can relax. You can release the worrisome thoughts of “I hope I get something done today”, because you wont — you will be getting something accomplished. You will be bettering yourself and the world around you by organizing your starts and stops of your day.

 

Nuance Notes:

  • Always prepare your book-ends the day previous to the next day, including a short one-sentence mission statement.
  • Make sure that you are incredibly clear as to how your goals will impact your life.
  • Make sure the book-ends are written not just in your head.
  • Contemplate on them as you fall asleep.
  • 10/10 successful people do this, and that’s the truth.
  • Consider this your pre-game prep.

Today is the day that you prepare for tomorrow. Not moving fast, not moving slow. But this is a way that you will be able to consciously move through life with a self guided plan for success. While others are rushing to get things done saying, “I have so much to do today.” You’ll be saying, “Look what I’ve accomplished!”

Don’t Worry, and This is How

 

Introduction: 

Do you think you’re a person that worries? Sometimes it’s the small things in life rather than the big things that can be stressful, stresstherefore causing worry in individuals. Perhaps you feel anxious about what has already happened that day at work, or you’re imagining what might go wrong in the future. You are not alone. Research has shown that women worry more often and more intensely than men do. They also tend to see more risks in a situation and as a result anxiety increases. (Kristen Lagatutta, University of California)

A Closer Look: 

When we look closer we find that we worry about what we care about. So maybe worry shouldn’t be completely eliminated from our lives, or can it? When we care about the safety of people we love, or the success or quality of what we are doing, or the viability of our business and livelihood, or anything else that is important to us, we feel worry concern for these things and people in our lives. I’m not sure it’s a good idea to completely get rid of worry, but rather understand it’s place in our lives.

I have heard performers–even those who have done it for many years–say that they haven’t figured out how to overcome stage fright (a component of worry) and don’t completely want to get rid of it. It gives them an edge that makes them better than if they were completely comfortable. Meaning, if they don’t care, they aren’t as good. I’ve known people who don’t seem to care about anything and don’t seem to worry or be concerned about anything. They’re usually the people who will tell you that they don’t care about life, that life is just a gravy train to be ridden. Well I certainly don’t want to be a person that doesn’t care about worry, but at the same time I don’t want to stress every second of every day. So for those of you who, that worry a bit; well, it might be healthy, and maybe you shouldn’t worry so much about worrying. Worrying won’t change anything, but maybe it helps us realize a little more what is important to us.

A Solution to Worrying: In Two Parts

Part I

Have you ever been in the midst of a test then to realize that you didn’t study for or a specific part of the test because you made the choice to do something else? This is our first solution to the element of worry. We need to do our home work and prepare our lives so that we have a lesser chance of failure. You see, we tend to worry strictly about failing in some aspect. The key here is to eliminate this fear by making sure we have our duck in a row. We can start the saving fund, do that research, and read up on that hiring boss. The problem isn’t with the resources, environment, or situation, the problem is with not taking action. We can start each day by setting up a plan to be effective, efficient, and strategic. This means we take pre-game steps in order to be as prepared as we can. This can be taken to far, as the individual should be caution as to how must analyzing is done here. Nevertheless, the key in this approach is setting yourself up for success with a positive outlook on your day. You will feel at ease, knowing you did everything within your power to prepare.

Part II

This section deals strictly with your mind and how you deal under stressful situation. After you have prepared the best you can, you now need to understand that things may change in an instant. This is when your “fight or flight” response will want to kick in. You job is to master how you deal with this response when changes occur. Your best response would be to take six large deep breaths in order to, first, center yourself. Then, after you are present and adjusted to the new situation (one you didn’t plan for) you can now make a solid sound decision based on your association with your goals, benefit of others, or direction in life. The key to this is centeredness. You must be completely centered in the midst of a stressful situation — the eye of the storm, if you will. When you are in this inner state, you will have a clear head and not one that is looking to fight or flee the scene. Rather, you will be dedicated to solving the problem at hand or making a strategic move towards a greater outcome.

 

Conclusion:

When you are worried next, ask yourself two question: 1. Am I prepared to the best of my abilities for this? and 2. If something were to change, how would I handle myself internally? Once you have completely centered yourself in your knowledge and applicability to a changed situation, you will develop confidence. Confidence that you did your homework and that you can handle any situation that comes your way.

And there you have it; worry is a great thing because when it does occur we can ask ourselves these questions, giving us insight into how we can better handle the situation (or one like it) better next time. Stay centered, and for your own sake — do your homework. 

 

Improve Your Life With a Day of Rest

Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness.  -Richard Carlsonrest

Do you live a busy life? This might be a silly question, but if you live what you consider a busy life, you and your body needs rest and regeneration. We all need it rest, whether we like to admit to it or not.  I’m one of those people who doesn’t want to admit it, but I have come to understand that I can be twice as productive if I give my mind and body a break. I used to think that rest was  for those who don’t have anything better to do, and for those who don’t want to get ahead. Until crashing happened. Then, I took steps to adjust how I approached my life to still feel fulfilled and rested simultaneously. This is a product of a balanced life with excellent time management skills.

Cultures and traditions throughout the world have written about the power of practicing a day of rest or even a moment of rest. But is there a possibility that some of these traditions might have been based in natural principles that they were given for the sake of preserving the health of the people? We already know that many of the ancient traditions regarding eating habits have been found to be based on factual evidence of the forbidden foods were dangerous to the people’s physical well-being. However, when it comes to mastering your personal health, taking a day of rest also has a very practical application to our well-being.

A recent article published by the DailyMail stated that  domestic chores, work worries and arguments at family get-togethers are all factors which have combined to make the second half of the weekend just as frenetic as a working day for most. Nearly two-thirds of those polled (65 per cent) said they had busier schedules on a Sunday than a weekday – losing out on time to recover from a tiring week at work. One-in-ten admitted to spending most of the Sabbath worrying about the working week ahead, while 67 per cent said the ‘Sunday blues’ kicked in at some point in the day. Over half of those polled (51%) believe that Sunday is a day ‘for getting things done’. The study for TV channel Really found that an average of three hours and 36 minutes is spent completing household tasks such as ironing, washing, grocery shopping and cleaning. A third of adults (35%), admitted nagging or being nagged by their partners to carry out such chores.

Even though we may not actually feel stress in the conventional sense, i.e. work, bosses, products due, the stresses of arguing with family members and conflicting ideas can cause the same rise in blood pressure, contributing to hypertension and heart attack.

So, let’s not argue and get to relaxing…

If we take the time to relax, which is the ying to the yang of our stresses, we find a deep sense of ourselves. By taking time to be quiet, our internal monologue and personalization with the outside world lessens. As we ease in to our day of rest, we are privy to several benefits that will aid in our stress managing ability for the work week. Those might include:

  • It fosters a sense of gratitude.
  • Disables flight/flight.
  • It helps maintain balance in my life by drawing focus to the things that are most important.
  • Quiets the rambling of the inner monologue.
  • It helps with mentally catching up and the recharge of physical energy.
  • Inspirational. Time to spend connecting with your own spirit force.

What will you do on your day of rest?

Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche’s Poem of Love

Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche's Poem of Love

“Love.
What is love?
What is love.
Love is a fading memory.
Love is piercingly present.
Love is full of charm.
Love is hideously in the way.
Explosion of love makes you feel ecstatic.
Explosion of love makes you feel suicidal.
Love brings goodliness and godliness.
Love brings celestial vision.
Love creates the unity of heaven and earth.
Love tears apart heaven and earth.
Is love sympathy.
Is love gentleness.
Is love possessiveness.
Is love sexuality.
Is love friendship.
Who knows?
Maybe the rock knows,
Sitting diligently on earth,
Not flinching from cold snowstorms or baking heat.
O rock,
How much I love you:
You are the only loveable one.
Would you let me grow a little flower of love on you?
If you don’t mind,
Maybe I could grow a pine tree on you.
If you are so generous,
Maybe I could build a house on you.
If you are fantastically generous,
Maybe I could eat you up,
Or move you to my landscape garden.
It is nice to be friends with a rock!”

Love is an interesting part of our every day life. We say we “love” coffee, food, people, articles, photographs, animals and so forth. What is love? To answer this question you would have to consult the hundred plus years love has been debated about by theologians and philosophers. For scientists, “love” is a chemical reaction when parts of our brains release chemicals that make us feel good physically. To theologians, love is spiritual connection to something that matchs our connection to the world. To philosophers, love is a part of the ego that longs to fill a psychological void deep within our mind. So, love can obviously become complex very quickly.

In the above poem by Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche (1939 – 1987), Buddhist meditation teacher and founder of the Shambhala community, love becomes a an all encompassing aspect of memory to something that can give your celestial vision. At the conclusion, you are left with the lingering impression that love is a fixation with a rock. The point that Chögyam is hinting is that love is not only with things we like or have a deep effection for, but also to the childlike fixation with a rock. He also eludes to the idea that he might “move” the rock to different locations. What this says is that even though he has this fixation of “love” towards this rock, he can find different places for the rock. What this eludes to is that he is willing to release the object that he loves in order set benefit to other areas of his life.

We can learn a lot from Chögyam’s poem on love. But I’d like to present two main points that jump out right away: 1. All encompassing love. 2. Releasing that love into the world for the benefits of others. Is it possible to love coffee just as we love our home pet? If you’ve ever had some organic French press coffee, you’d be able to answer that. Is love more than a biochemical response in the brain? If you’ve ever been speechless due to seeing massive beauty, you’d be able to answer that question. Love, is beyond words and labels. Love is transferable, give-able, and palatable. Love can be between two people just as much as with a rock. The difference is in how open our hearts are.

Poem from: Timely Rain: Selected Poetry of Chögyam Trungpa. Written July 1975

What is Your Source of Happiness?

Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it. – Groucho Marx Read more of this post

Discovering Happiness in a World of Negative Illusion

Dawning upon a new chapter in my life after graduating college is frightening, but brings with it a tremendous opportunity for the future.

I’m working everyday at a job I hate, around a bunch of negative people who are currently not happy with their lives. I can now understand why the majority of adults these days are miserable. What I believe is the cause to the misery is not the terrible job they are working, or the negative people who bring them down for eight hours, it’s that fact that they think they do not have an alternative.  Read more of this post

Eating Your Way to Health, Happiness, and Well-Being

HJ: I can tell you this with utmost certainty: there is no quicker way to health than the adoption of a diet of whole, organic, unrefined foods and there is no quicker way to disease and malaise than the lack thereof.  The role of whole foods in health is greatly underestimated by the current medical establishment, although this is changing quite rapidly.  The powers that be are aware of this fact, which is why they have fought tooth and nail over the last century to devitalize our foods into nutritionless, genetically modified matter that serves little purpose than to keep us in an addicted, chemicalized stupor.

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What is True Happiness?

It is so hard to be happy with your self in today’s society.

Society tells you that you need the perfectly sculpted body to be happy, or you need to be with a beautiful girl to be happy, or if you have a certain lifestyle, you’ll be happy. Society tells you so much surface bullshit that you think will make you happy but in reality, your vision and sight are so clouded that you can’t even see or hear what your telling your self you need to make you happy.

I thought I was happy.

I followed the rules and all the bullshit that I thought was right because the world we live in  is so clouded and filled with fluff and just filler. Filler is temporary satisfaction, because as a human race we’ve become so accustomed to instant gratification that once we don’t get it or something goes vaguely astray from our intentions, our entire world falls apart in our own minds. Read more of this post

Happiness by Judith Atwood

This is the story of me, finding happiness.  That may not matter very much to the general public, but for people who struggle with depression, maybe my story will help you write your story. Read more of this post

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