Comments for http://zazenlife.com A Self Development Blogging Community of Higher Awareness Wed, 29 Jun 2016 20:49:14 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by Lianne Downey http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208767 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 20:49:14 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208767 Hello — Yes, guilt is a very powerful magnetic pull we can share with someone from our past. People often mistake it for “love,” this strong feeling that you need to be with or serve someone in some way. Then later on, the guilt/recrimination cycle begins in earnest and we realize it wasn’t love but … guilt! that drew us back together.

Fortunately for you, you have recognized it right away. “He got in trouble because of me in our past life.” Sounds like guilt to me! And guilt is NOT a good reason for clinging to, or getting deeply involved with someone.

So how does one discharge the guilt? you might ask. Of course, that depends on the situation. The first, most important element is not to mistake guilt for something like love or duty. Sure, it is possible to have BOTH — love and guilt, but if the love isn’t there, don’t make this common mistake. Your mental awareness and analysis of the situation has already pulled you back out of the cycle of repetition; the fact that you are considering this feeling welling up from previous lives already removes you from it, in an objective way, so that you can stand back and take a good long look. You can make calm decisions based on something other than a guilty reflex.

And don’t let the other party’s feelings of recrimination/blame suck you in, as you have already experienced what that feels like! “He sucks all the energy out of me. I am depressed due to this.” In my personal experience, some people never feel adequately compensated for what their subconscious minds deem to be a debt owed to them. Perhaps in many cases, the guilt-and-recrimination were unjustified. Perhaps you did not actually get this person “in trouble,” for it is very rare that someone acts entirely based on another’s influence over them. It’s likely some choice was made on his part.

How many times in your present life have you felt “guilty” about something that really wasn’t yours to feel guilty about? Then imagine that feeling compounded over lifetimes, distorted by human mental frailties such as overblown ego and loneliness and desires to please. That simple little guilty feeling becomes magnified and blown all out of proportion over lifetimes. Meanwhile, if the other party convinces you that, “yes, it was all YOUR fault!” then this cycle between the two of you can continue, life after life after life. It gets more and more complex. That’s why we so often mistake it for “love,” because it pulls at us like glue.

How do you ground yourself and feel better? By understanding the mental and emotional dynamics at play between you. Sooner or later, one of you must get off that see-saw and walk away. It’s really that simple. Ah, but it is not easy! And if the guilt comes in a package with other emotions, or in a family situation, you may spend your lifetime forgiving yourself for all the little guilts that have piled up, one by one, while learning how to understand yourself and others better, and how to live with kindness and gratitude toward others, and toward yourself.

By the way, no one can forgive you; you must forgive yourself. Mistakes are how we learn. Guilt–and any other human emotion –can be a great teacher!
Much love to you, of the Infinite kind, to help you find your way — Lianne

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Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by Su Pooni http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208756 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 16:46:18 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208756 Hi Lianne, I just met someone from my past life and he got in trouble because of me in our past life but he thinks I am going to get him in trouble. He is terribly attracted to me but I know why. I feel so guilty around him. He sucks all the energy out of me. I am depressed due to this. How do i ground myself and feel better about this? Please help!

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Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by Lianne Downey http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208672 Sun, 19 Jun 2016 01:36:17 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208672 Dear Jane: Yes. Don’t you think so? Please read my reply to Kalanthia, which should appear just before your own comment. And you already know the answer: Lessons you don’t learn the first time, your own higher self will encourage you to repeat. You will attract all the circumstances. It’s amazing the extraordinary lengths we all go to in our lives to re-create old circumstances so that we can try, try again. Have you ever watched that old movie, Groundhog Day? I highly recommend it for you. Please learn to value yourself more highly, dear, as I mentioned to Kalanthia. I know you can do that. Find that Infinite Light within yourself and don’t let anyone extinguish or cloud it. — Lianne

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Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by Lianne Downey http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208671 Sun, 19 Jun 2016 01:30:42 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208671 Dear Kalanthia — I’ve taken a long time thinking this over before replying to your comment/question. I don’t know fully why it stopped me, but something about the story of going home with a guy you didn’t know, having a few drinks, and piling into bed with him just made my blood chill. I suppose you have touched on MY past lives! So, what do you think of that, eh? Then, meeting up with him years later …

Not to mention the first tale you told, about a friend of your brothers’. I was molested by a friend of my brother’s when I was a very young teenager. And by an uncle when I was a baby and very young child. So forgive me if casual sex still gives me the heebie-jeebies and I worried about your lack of concern for your own safety, and if older friends of older brothers sound like bad news to me. These are my own biases from my own past-and-present life experiences.

Please, dear, do value your Self like the treasure you are, and do not give yourself so casually away to anyone who stirs your blood, okay? Just for me? If not for your own self esteem! I do recall that kind of stirring up from people I’d clearly met in previous lives. Fortunately for me, I began studying past life continuities when I was only 21. Oh, and if I’d known about this earlier in my life, it could have saved me so much trouble!

I will say for your benefit, and for all others reading this article, that just because they trigger that old memory, and just because you might have had a physical relationship in some distant lifetime, does not mean it is wise and good to follow them home, or cheat on your current partner, or begin a whole new cycle of connection with everyone who triggers this response in you!! It happens far more often to each of us than you would believe! This is how we get ourselves into awful relationship messes. Take a few deep breaths first, and remember that your emotions are being stirred from a deep, dark history—or maybe even from a very happy but PAST lifetime. The PAST element is key.

Remember this very important teaching I learned from the visionary authors and my spiritual mentors, Ernest L. and Ruth Norman: Your PAST is always negative/destructive/backward-flowing in relationship to your PRESENT lifetime. Even if it was a happy past life, it will not feel that way to you now if you could repeat it verbatim. We are evolutionary beings. We must ever move ahead in our knowledge and our experience. We cannot go back, and if we try, we will feel so bogged down in such a short time by the heavy weight of repetition.

This moment of thought and consideration will give you a chance to discover whether or not you and this person of the opposite gender are the right match to go FORWARD into the FUTURE together! Do you share common goals? Do you have balanced give-and-take? Do you have mutual respect? That’s righT; it takes time to answer these questions.

So pause, sweet readers, and think it over before you leap. Get to know one another. Let that first tingle of recognition serve to alert you to the reality that you have lived before, countless thousands of lifetimes! And then turn your consciousness forward to where you want to go in the future. Does this person belong in that picture? Are they someone who can support and allow your personal evolutionary growth? Do you love them fully and with all of your heart? Okay, then.

Thank you, Kalanthia, for your patience in allowing me to identify what disturbed me so deeply about your stories. I hope something in my reply will be of value to you. And I wish you a beautiful life, filled with the kind of love and companionship your Infinite Soul deserves. — Lianne

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Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by kalanthia http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208150 Wed, 11 May 2016 14:19:07 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208150 Hi Lianne,
I love this article on past lives!! I’ve had many unusual encounters with people including my preset partner of the past 12 years. However, things have gotten strange for me the past five years. First of all, I briefly went to school with a guy who is very good friends with my brothers. This guy is a little bit older than me and was moved from school to school. Even though we hadn’t really spoken much as kids and teenagers, I do remember a moment in time when we were alone waiting for the bus to come. I must have been about 13 or 14 and randomly thinking how I wanted to marry him! Silly thought at the time. Then he disappeared but I always heard about him through the grapevine because he was really popular and bad ass. A few times over the past 20 years I’ve had very brief encounters of meeting him while dating an ex boyfriend. Once my ex had to stop by his place to pick something up. This guy came to the truck window and I looked into his eyes. His eyes! Something about his eyes and voice really stood out in that moment in time. It was strange, like a recognition. Then about 5 years ago, around the time my brothers became best buds with him, I went to an event with my current boyfriend. There he was! He shook my hand and looked puzzled over me and asked my brother why hadn’t he been told I was his sister? He shook my hand, that’s when I realized he is left handed like I am and the hand to hand connection felt like electricity. The look in his eyes! Yet again, another moment in time that stood still. He felt larger than life and at a height of about 6 foot 5 or so, he seemed even bigger than that. Shortly after that I added him as a friend on Facebook. For quite awhile he would serial like my shares etc and then I started doing the same. Then we started having conversations about mutual interests and then some flirting. There was this over the top sexual attraction to him even though i would consider him to be my ‘type’. It was crazy, especially since I started having dreams about him and everything felt so intense and below the surface, so to speak. Some kind of psychic connection or something. Anyhow, the past while I feel like the whole situation has fizzled out and I’m partly relieved. I’m in a long term relationship and was feeling rather guilty about it. He rarely communicates with me anymore. There is always the high chance of meeting him again due to living in my old community and his friendship with my brothers.

Now, this is my most recent strange situation with a different guy! Back in 2003, I was walking home from work one day, I was randomly approached by a guy that somehow convinced me to go back to his home to hang out and have a few drinks. Normally, I wouldn’t do this but he was insistant. We go to his place where he is there with a friend. We talk and I have one drink, then he starts telling me how beautiful I was and that he had been watching me walk home everyday for awhile and finally got the nerve to approach me. Suddenly he’s touching my neck and I felt like I was on fire! I ended up having a sexual encounter with him that very time. It was insane!! Afterwards he told me to stick around but he had to go down the road for a minute. I waited a little bit but he had other friends stopping by, guys and girls. I felt uncomfortable, so I told them I was leaving. So I just took off home. Later on I was really sad about leaving and wanted to know more about him. I only knew his first name and where he lived. I waited about a week and decided to stop in to see him. This time only to find out the place was empty and he moved! I actually felt devastated! I became obsessed over him and wanted to find him again …but how? So, several months went by and I ran into his friend. I asked where he was but his friend said that he was living out of town with his new girlfriend. He also informed me that I should have stayed longer and waited for him to come back because he felt bummed out that I left on him!! Anyhow, I tried to push that out of my mind and moved on.
Now to present day….My boyfriend and I joined a martial arts club back in the fall. Over the winter a new girl joined our class. She kept talking about her boyfriend being a brown belt and that he was transferring over from their old club to this one. It wasn’t until last month that I met him and came to the eerie realization that it was the same guy I has encountered years ago and of course, the same first name. This time he is not only a new member but an instructor for my class. So, he decides to partner up with my boyfriend in class right away and they got along. But the weird part was when students shake each others hands at the end…he doesn’t shake my hand but quietly tells me ‘Thanks for coming.’ I wasn’t sure how to take this as I’m not sure if he remembers what happened years ago. I know I never forgot. In fact, I even wrote about it in a diary I kept back then! Anyhow, I haven’t gone back to many classes much since but I wonder everytime now. I also greatly admire the other instructor but I feel a different connection to him. Like he is a great teacher figure I can really look up too. I admire him, he is so cool. Like the big brother I never had! I’m wondering if you have any insights towards these two guys I’ve written about and how this plays a part in my past life and currant life path?
Thanks so much!

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Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by Michelle http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208053 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 17:50:33 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208053 Hi Lianne,

How do you know if someone is your twin flame?

I have this best gay friend who is my twin, we look alike, speak alike, say the same things at the same time. He’s the male version of me and I feel like i can’t be without him. We are close and there are times that I know he’s gonna call before he does like I get something that just tells me oh he’s gonna call to come over and he does or I played an old song for months and one day he just posted the song. Or I’ll be thinking of some stuff and when I see him then he will mention stuff I was thinking and I’m like how did you know. That’s not even half of it. He knows what I want more than anyone without me even saying. I’m having hard time meeting someone now because I’m in love with him. We have something there, he has some attraction to me because he has said he likes girls too but he wants to be with a guy. I wonder why we were supposed to meet and why we’re not meant for each other.

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Comment on The After-Effects of The Atomic Bombs on Hiroshima & Nagasaki by Anonymous http://zazenlife.com/2011/12/29/the-after-effects-of-the-atomic-bombs-on-hiroshima-nagasaki/#comment-208032 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 18:49:13 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=3088#comment-208032 fuck you all

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Comment on The Super Conscious Mind by Anonymous http://zazenlife.com/2012/03/01/super-conscious-mind/#comment-208025 Wed, 27 Apr 2016 18:33:19 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=6850#comment-208025 We are what we are ……
Make a fertile soil plough it ….seed desired thoughts ….water it everyday in repetition…..and everybody knows what’s next ….
We Reep what we sow……
Focus+belief+optimism =success

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Comment on 12 Ways to Identify Past Life Friends, Lovers, & Enemies by Jane http://zazenlife.com/2013/11/20/12-ways-identify-past-life-friends-lovers-enemies/#comment-208008 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 06:59:38 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=20039#comment-208008 I keep running into the same kind of guy… 3 Michaels, all taken, yet they keep pursuing me. And unfortunately, I gave in before I found out they are not available. Makes me wonder if this was a lesson I didn’t learn in the past?

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Comment on 7 Ways to Balance Your Yin and Yang Energies by Gary http://zazenlife.com/2013/06/27/7-ways-to-balance-your-yin-and-yang-energies/#comment-207975 Tue, 19 Apr 2016 01:05:25 +0000 http://zazenlife.com/?p=18068#comment-207975 for some time now bad things have been happening to me? have bouts of depression and lack of energy as if something inside of me has broken? I just can’t seem to get back the good side of things? if that makes sense/

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