Don’t Worry, and This is How

ThomasMcGregor

 

Introduction: 

Do you think you’re a person that worries? Sometimes it’s the small things in life rather than the big things that can be stressful, stresstherefore causing worry in individuals. Perhaps you feel anxious about what has already happened that day at work, or you’re imagining what might go wrong in the future. You are not alone. Research has shown that women worry more often and more intensely than men do. They also tend to see more risks in a situation and as a result anxiety increases. (Kristen Lagatutta, University of California)

A Closer Look: 

When we look closer we find that we worry about what we care about. So maybe worry shouldn’t be completely eliminated from our lives, or can it? When we care about the safety of people we love, or the success or quality of what we are doing, or the viability of our business and livelihood, or anything else that is important to us, we feel worry concern for these things and people in our lives. I’m not sure it’s a good idea to completely get rid of worry, but rather understand it’s place in our lives.

I have heard performers–even those who have done it for many years–say that they haven’t figured out how to overcome stage fright (a component of worry) and don’t completely want to get rid of it. It gives them an edge that makes them better than if they were completely comfortable. Meaning, if they don’t care, they aren’t as good. I’ve known people who don’t seem to care about anything and don’t seem to worry or be concerned about anything. They’re usually the people who will tell you that they don’t care about life, that life is just a gravy train to be ridden. Well I certainly don’t want to be a person that doesn’t care about worry, but at the same time I don’t want to stress every second of every day. So for those of you who, that worry a bit; well, it might be healthy, and maybe you shouldn’t worry so much about worrying. Worrying won’t change anything, but maybe it helps us realize a little more what is important to us.

A Solution to Worrying: In Two Parts

Part I

Have you ever been in the midst of a test then to realize that you didn’t study for or a specific part of the test because you made the choice to do something else? This is our first solution to the element of worry. We need to do our home work and prepare our lives so that we have a lesser chance of failure. You see, we tend to worry strictly about failing in some aspect. The key here is to eliminate this fear by making sure we have our duck in a row. We can start the saving fund, do that research, and read up on that hiring boss. The problem isn’t with the resources, environment, or situation, the problem is with not taking action. We can start each day by setting up a plan to be effective, efficient, and strategic. This means we take pre-game steps in order to be as prepared as we can. This can be taken to far, as the individual should be caution as to how must analyzing is done here. Nevertheless, the key in this approach is setting yourself up for success with a positive outlook on your day. You will feel at ease, knowing you did everything within your power to prepare.

Part II

This section deals strictly with your mind and how you deal under stressful situation. After you have prepared the best you can, you now need to understand that things may change in an instant. This is when your “fight or flight” response will want to kick in. You job is to master how you deal with this response when changes occur. Your best response would be to take six large deep breaths in order to, first, center yourself. Then, after you are present and adjusted to the new situation (one you didn’t plan for) you can now make a solid sound decision based on your association with your goals, benefit of others, or direction in life. The key to this is centeredness. You must be completely centered in the midst of a stressful situation — the eye of the storm, if you will. When you are in this inner state, you will have a clear head and not one that is looking to fight or flee the scene. Rather, you will be dedicated to solving the problem at hand or making a strategic move towards a greater outcome.

 

Conclusion:

When you are worried next, ask yourself two question: 1. Am I prepared to the best of my abilities for this? and 2. If something were to change, how would I handle myself internally? Once you have completely centered yourself in your knowledge and applicability to a changed situation, you will develop confidence. Confidence that you did your homework and that you can handle any situation that comes your way.

And there you have it; worry is a great thing because when it does occur we can ask ourselves these questions, giving us insight into how we can better handle the situation (or one like it) better next time. Stay centered, and for your own sake — do your homework. 

 

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